How Narcissists Weaponise Their Borderline Core

The Narcissist’s Charm Assault Feels Real For A Reason

Borderlines are some of the most charming, lovable and seductive people you will ever meet. Being at their side is like sitting by a fire. There’s something deeply comforting and warm about a borderline, but you also sense that, much like a fire, if you get too close, you will get burnt.

Funnily enough, narcissists come across the same way at the beginning. They direct their fire onto you, lighting up parts of you you never knew existed. Of course, in reality, you are being brought under the wing of a dragon. But none of this comes through. The narcissist remains charming and as inoffensive as anyone you’ve met.

A Dragon Without Its Armour

No narcissist is a pure narcissist. Some have psychopathic states, while others have a weaker narcissistic layer, with their grandiosity more fickle than a thin crisp chip.

Narcissists are also adaptable. They can be haughty and arrogant with someone who idealises them, but gentle and lovable with someone who needs to be softened up. If the narcissist senses someone has low self-esteem, they will attract that person by remaining warm and attuned, knowing how easily such a person can get startled and run away.

A narcissist knows when to put on their grandiose false self like a suit of armour, and when to take it off and wear something more casual instead: Their borderline self.